Who wants to be a Romeo or a Casanova? Sure, the mere whisper of their legendary names brings forth images of fiery passion and intense romance… but in reality, the former’s biggest love affair was over almost as soon as it had begun, and the ‘world’s greatest lover’ never quite found what he was looking for, despite all the lustful nuns and cheeky wenches. No, what you should aspire to be is a Romantic Superhero, a master of the romantic arts and a conqueror of the female heart… read on as we reveal the ultimate guide to dazzling the woman of your dreams! Whether you’re looking to spice up your long-term relationship or kick-start a new prospect, we’ll have you fluent in the language of love faster than you can say “a rose by any other name would smell as sweet”…
1. Be Irresistible
Love can be blind. And affection should certainly be much more than skin deep… Still, taking care of your appearance can really show her how much you care. Maintain yourself from top to toe and new squeezes won’t be able to keep their hands off of you while long-term partners will fall in love all over again. Few things say I still love you after all these years like regularly clipping your nose-hair!
2. Surprise Surprise!
It’s so easy to fall into tired routines. With the old nine to five, days become weeks and weeks become months… and suddenly it seems like you’re trapped in Groundhog Day. That’s why surprises can instantly inject a bit of magic into your love life. The best time to spring a surprise is when there’s no particular reason… after all, shouldn’t everyday be special when you’re in love? From simple surprises such as a luxury box of chocolatesto out-of-the-ordinary experiences like a tandem skydive, with a little imagination, you’ll find that there are many ways you can wow her when she’s least expecting it.
3. Listen Up
It’s the simplest thing, but something we can all neglect all too often. Communication is key to your relationship (and romance!). Switch the mobiles off or even book a romantic escape so that there’ll be no interruptions. Be prepared to listen without necessarily talking about yourself once in a while. Ask her how she is and encourage her to open up You’ll be amazed at how much you still have to learn about each other… and how a little tête-à-tête will bring you even closer together…
4. Cut the Cheese
Oh yes, women love comedians. Just look at Ali G and Isla Fisher. Vic Reeves and Nancy Sorrell. Prince Charles and Camilla Parker Bowles. But there’s a fine line between being funny and cheesy… and it’s better to avoid treading a precarious tightrope with tired chat up lines and obvious platitudes. If you want to tell her how you feel, don’t dress it up with humour… just say it straight from the heart. And then have a good laugh together about strange workmates or giggle while you play a romantic game…
5. Cook Up a Storm
What do Gordon Ramsay and Jamie Oliver have that you don’t? Besides a bazillion quid and a few posh restaurants… nothing really. Even if you feel like your cooking skills are limited to cheese toasties and heating up baked beans, you’d be amazed at how some decent kitchen equipment and a few simple recipes will make a little culinary magic a breeze. If you’re more confident in the kitchen department, try to find out her favourite dish and surprise her with it. The evening will be less Hell’s Kitchen and more the Naked Chef…
6. Set the Mood
If you’ve got a romantic evening planned, there are several effortless but enchanting touches you can add to leave her totally amazed. Scatter some scented silk rose petals in a strategic pathway to the bed or around an inviting bubble bath… light a few candles… indulge in some aromatherapy… and offer her a warming massage… the stage is now set for an epic lovefest!
7. Make it Personal
When there’s a special occasion for her, or for the two of you, you’ll really want to get it right. And the best way to do that is to really give her something she wants. Women are usually pretty good (ahem) at giving hints… so pay attention and take note. And if she’s being mysterious, do your research. What are her hobbies? What month was she born in? If she’s an old-fashioned romantic, she’d probably adore a romantic dinneror a tasteful piece of jewellery set with her birthstone. If she’s rather more unconventional maybe she’d fancy a session with the king of the jungle or that donkey she’s always wanted. The perfect gift or gesture will melt any girl’s heart.
8. Say Sorry
However great your relationship is, it’s not always going to be smooth sailing. But be careful not to let petty arguments and issues escalate unnecessarily. If you hear each other out, you will usually discover that resolution is closer than it seems. Don’t ever feel too proud to say sorry first, as long as you truly mean it. If sorry is too hard to say… or doesn’t seem quite enough, a thoughtful gift will go a long way to making amends.
9. Remember the Time…
Every relationship is built upon a foundation of memories and shared experiences… sometimes you can take it for granted that she knows how much you value your past (and future) together. When you remember a great time you’ve shared, tell her immediately, whether in person or via phone or email. Remind her about how you felt about her the first time you saw her, what it was that made you start falling for her. Proudly display your favourite photos together, so that she’ll always know how much she means to you. Or treat her to a fantastic photo session, to capture forever how beautiful you’ll always find her.
10. It Takes Two
If you know you’ve got a future together, you’re going to want to keep creating amazing experiences. Sharing thrilling adventures draws a couple together like nothing else. Maybe you’d like to try white water rafting? Or enjoy a breathtaking view of the English countryside from a hot air balloon? Or perhaps you’d like to keep it more traditionally romantic, with a once in a lifetime jet set day or timeless ride on the Orient Express? Whatever memories you choose to make, a little extra effort will ensure that you’ll have unforgettable experiences to look back on and make you feel that first rush of love all over again…
Superman and Batman don’t stand a chance against a Romantic Superhero like you
